What To Do When Youve Blown It
Psalm 51
by Stephen May
Today were going to look at a story about a man of God who "blew it" in a big way. He committed sins that you simply wouldnt expect a good man to commit. And it wasnt one of those cases where he accidentally committed a sin before he realized what was going on. No, he put a great deal of thought and effort into committing his sin, and then he went to even greater trouble to cover his sin. In fact, the events in his life read more like a Oliver Stone script than a Bible story. When the smoke finally cleared, two people were dead and two families destroyed. However, the most amazing fact about this story is that this didnt ruin the man. He was able to recover from his mistakes and get back on his feet.
You might have already guessed: the man Im talking about is King David. Hes the same one who as a teenager killed Goliath, and later wrote the most recognizable passage in the Bible, "The Lord is my Shepherd I shall not want."
This is the story. One evening, King David had a hard time going to sleep, so he went out on the balcony of his palace to take a walk. Off in the distance he saw a beautiful woman named Bethsheba taking a bath. When he found out that her husband, Uriah, was a soldier and was away at war, David sent for her and seduced her. Sometime later she told him that she was going to have a baby. In an attempt to cover his tracks, David had Uriah brought in from the battlefield for a time of "R&R". David suggested that Uriah go home and spend time with his wife. Uriah politely refused; going home to his wife during a time of war would have been an act of disloyalty to his fellow soldiers. Since Uriah couldnt be persuaded to compromise, David sent him back to battle with a letter to deliver to the commanding officer. Uriah didnt know it, but he was delivering his own death warrant. The letter told the CO to put Uriah on the front lines and withdraw the other troops so Uriah would be sure to die. This is exactly what happened. Uriah was killed in battle and David married Bethsheba. No one in Israel knew the story behind the story, but the bible says,
The Lord was very displeased with what David had done. (2 Samuel 11:27)
It wasnt long before a prophet named Nathan confronted David with his sin. David knew that he had done wrong, and Im sure that deep down he knew he couldnt get away with it. To make matters worse, David and Bethshebas newborn child was very sick, and Nathan said it was all Davids fault. He said to David, "Because of what you have done, this baby is going to die." Imagine how David felt about that! He couldnt hide it any longer. He had blown it in a big way, and now it was time to face the music.
David did face the music. He made things right with God and got his life back on track. At some point during this time, he wrote Psalm 51. This Psalm is all about "What To Do When Youve Blown It." We can learn from Davids example how to make things right whenever we make a big mistake, or commit a "big" sin. When that happens, we often make the mistake of thinking that God hates us because of what weve done. The truth is, He loves us no matter what. When we sin, even when we sin big, He wants to forgive us and help us get back on our feet.
Today, were going to talk about "What To Do When Youve Blown It" and how to get back on the right track with God, with others, and with yourself. Getting back on track requires a
1. Change of Heart
In the first two verses of Psalm 51, David begs
forgiveness, then says
(v. 3-4) For I know my transgressions, and my sin is always before me. Against you, you only, have I sinned and done what is evil in your sight.
David was guilty and he knew it. He couldnt deny his wrongdoing any longer. He could only confess to God and ask forgiveness.
Not to long ago basketball star Dennis Rodman made the headlines when he kicked a cameraman during a basketball game. Luckily for Rodman, he escaped criminal charges and got by with just an 11 game suspension and a $200,000 payout to his victim. A few days after the incident Rodman discussed the event in an interview, and his attitude reflected anything but a change of heart. In fact, he insisted that what he had done wasnt all that bad. He said that he himself was the victim in this whole ordeal, since he was being forced to pay money only because hes rich. After all, he said, he just gave the guy a little tap. He must have forgotten that everyone saw the footage (no pun intended) of the assault. The bottom line was, even after the payout and the suspension, Dennis Rodman didnt believe he had done anything wrong.
Were often just that way about our own sin. We try to justify it and pretend that its not so bad. We try to explain why it isnt really sin. As long as we keep this defiant attitude we can never get completely right with God. Getting right with God requires a change of heart.
Jim Bakkers new book is titled "I Was Wrong." In the book, he admits not only to moral failure, but also acknowledges that he led many people astray by teaching theological error. He describes himself during that time of his life as ambitious and self-serving, and considered himself above consequences. When he wound up in prisonalone, broke and abandoned, he experienced a change of heart. He reached a point where he was truly sorry for his sins.
When I was young and I would get into trouble, my mother would ask me if I was sorry. Of course, my answer was always yes. Then she would ask the tough question, "Are you sorry you did it, or are you just sorry you got caught?" A change of heart means that were sorry we did it, regardless of who knows or doesnt know about our sin.
Secondly, getting back on track requires a
2. Change of Mind
Have you ever noticed that we gladly take credit for our accomplishments, but we often
blame our failures on extenuating circumstances? For example, how many times have you
heard someone say something like, "Im sorry I lost my temper. Its because
Im so tired
or Im under pressure
or you were getting on my nerves.
Our natural tendency is to blame someone or something else whenever we fail. When people
say, "Im not myself today" they most often mean that they are at their
worst, not their best. Its not always easy to accept responsibility for our
failures, but we have to if we want to get our lives back on track. We have to change our
mind about who is in control of our life. We have to stop blaming others and accept
responsibility for our actions.
In 1980 New York City Mayor Ed Koch appeared on a local news program in the middle of the citys financial crisis. Koch had spent over a quarter of a million dollars to put up bike lanes in Manhattan, and they turned out to be a disaster. Cars were driving in the bike lanes, pedestrians were walking in the them, and bikers were getting crowded out. It was a mess and many people in New York were irate about it. Koch was coming up for re-election, so a handful of journalists cornered him on this show, planning to tear him to pieces for spending money foolishly when the city was nearly broke. One reporter said, "Mayor, in light of the financial difficulties New York City is facing, how could you possibly justify wasting $300,000 on bike lanes?" The stage was set for a half-hour confrontation. Instead, Koch said, "It was a terrible idea. I thought it would work, but it didnt. It was one of the worst mistakes I ever made." Then he stopped. None of the other journalists knew what to say or do. They were expecting him to squirm and make excuses, but he didnt even try. The next journalist stammered and said, "But Mayor Koch, how could you do this?" Koch said, "I already told you. It was a stupid idea. It didnt work." Then he stopped. There was still 26 minutes left to go on the news show, and the reporters had to find something else to talk about. The last thing they expected that day was for the mayor take responsibility for his actions. Ultimately, of course, Koch went on to receive both the Democratic and the Republican endorsements for re-election.
The principle here is that we have to change our mind about who is in control of our lives. We cannot blame our sin on anyone else. We are responsible for our own lives. It does no good to say, "I am a victim of my environment, or a victim of my circumstances, or a victim of genealogy, or a victim of bad luck." David could have said, "It was Bethshebas faultlook what she was wearing at the time." Or he could have blamed God. Or he could have blamed his others wives (yes, wiveshe had hundreds of them) for not being sensitive to his needs. He could have placed blame in several different areas, but he realized that it was now time to take responsibility for his actions and take back control of his life. Thats why he said
(v. 4) Against you, you only have I sinned You are proved right when you speak and justified when you judge. I have been a sinner from birth.
David was saying, "I am responsible for my actions. I cant blame anyone but myself." Getting back on track requires a change of heart, a change of mind, and a
3. Change of Direction
Davids life got off track because he started doing things his way and going his own
direction. Suddenly, he recognized that things had skidded out of control, and that he
needed to make things right. He also realized that he couldnt do it without Gods
help. Listen to his words
(v. 7-12) Cleanse me wash me blot out all my iniquity create in me a clean heart renew a steadfast spirit within me.
We can mess things up on our own without anyones help, but it takes an act of God to get us back on track. We must depend on Him to cleanse us, and wash us, and forgive us. Too often we are guilty of trying to clean ourselves up and make ourselves "good" so that we will be acceptable to Godand that is simply not acceptable to God! There is only way I can come to God"Just As I Am." When we come to Him this way, He is faithful and just to forgive us and cleanse us from all unrighteousness. (1John 1:9)
Getting back on track requires a change of directionwhere we stop going our way and start going His way. And what does it mean to "go Gods way"? It means that we
a. Spend time alone with God on a consistent basis. David said, "Do not cast me from your presence" because he recognized that spending time is what gives our lives direction.
b. Be filled with the Holy Spirit. David said, "Do not take your Holy Spirit from me," because he recognized that we need the Holy Spirits power in our lives to overcome the power of sin.
c. Ask God to give us a sense of joy. David said, "Restore to me the joy of your salvation," because he recognized that a relationship with God is supposed to make you happy, not miserable. We cant get back on track if we think that serving God is torture.
d. Ask for the power to be consistent. David said, "Grant me a willing spirit to sustain me," because he recognized that we cant be changed if were not willing to be changed on an on-going basis.
e. Look for the chance to help others. David said, "Then I will teach transgressors your ways and sinners will turn back to you" because he recognized the Good News is worth sharing with others.
CONCLUSION
A change of heart. A change of mind. A change of direction. Do
you know what all of this adds up to? Repentance. When we blow it, we need to repent. Some
people think that repentance is feeling guilty, but Ive got "bad news" for
those people: feeling guilty isnt enough. Theres more to repentance than just
feeling bad. Of course, when we sin we do feel guilty. Thats natural. But if you
feel guilty too long, you havent really repented. Repentance removes guilt.
When David asked for Gods forgiveness he also asked God to restore the joy of
salvation. Repentance results in joy. If youve blown it, you need
to get past feeling guilty and get back on track. Ask God to help you change your heart,
and change your mind, and change your direction.
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